How to Simplify Your Hospitality (Hospitality 101)
How to Simplify Your Hospitality (Hospitality 101)
in the spirit of slowing down for the holidays and reducing our collective stress level, letβs take some simple steps together to simplify our hospitality so we can spend time with our people without losing our sanity!
PRIORITIZE CONNECTION
The number one goal of hosting people in any capacity is to foster connection.
Sure, itβs great if the dishes are pretty, the food is delicious, the room is beautifully decorated, and the music is spot-on.
But ultimately, our guests care most about spending time with us.
So this year, Iβm giving you permission to prioritize connection, whatever that means to you.
Maybe it means making simpler food so you donβt have to spend so much time in the kitchen.
Maybe it means asking others to help so youβre not running the show single-handedly.
Maybe it means forgoing the elaborate dinner party in favor of something simpler and more low-key.
ROCK JUST A COUPLE THINGS
You also have my full permission to intentionally choose which things youβre going to say βyesβ to and which ones youβre going to say βnoβ to.
We all have our strengths, and this is where you get to celebrate yours and let others contribute theirs.
We donβt have to do all the things. We can just do some of the things, the most important things, the very best things.
Perhaps thatβs decorating a beautiful tree. Or making delicious food. Or creating the best party playlist ever. Or planning fun activities that everyone magically loves.
But chances are, weβre not good at all those things at the same time. So letβs leverage our strengths by doing what weβre good at. And we can ask others to contribute their unique gifts to make it a collective effort thatβs far better than our solo attempts could ever be.
JUST LOVE PEOPLE
No matter what happens, just love on your people.
Thatβs a mantra I have to keep repeating to myself as I plan and execute various parties and get-togethers.
It seems like itβs a law of the universe that nothing goes quite as planned. Guests might all arrive late (or early), people might forget what they were planning to contribute, the games we plan might not go over so well, there might be awkward silences, and things seldom go according to schedule.
Thatβs all okay.
Because itβs about connection, remember?
The goal is to love people, no matter what happens.
βI've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.β - Maya Angelou
INVITE THE RIGHT PEOPLE
One thing that really helps with creating fun get-togethers is inviting the right people to them in the first place!
If you consider who youβre inviting and make sure you have a few different types of people, youβll set yourself up to not have to carry the entire conversation or worry about it hitting a lull when you step out of the room to refill the appetizers.
The bubbly personality
This person is generally loud and vivacious. he or she will keep the conversation (and the party) going, even when thereβs a threat of a lull. Theyβre full of stories, anecdotes, movie references, and connections to make no matter who theyβre talking to.
The listener
This person is typically on the more reserved side, but donβt let their quietness scare you or fool you into thinking they arenβt a valuable component to your party. If you fill a room with bold, loud people, all youβll have is a noisy, overwhelming room full of people talking over each other in their excitement. You need to balance the loud conversationalists with quieter listeners.
The conversation starter
This person is good at asking questions. He or she might be loud and vivacious or quieter and more shy, but they turn the focus on others to get them involved. They know how to draw others out and make them feel included.
This, of course, isnβt meant to be a perfect formula, thinking you need to un-invite people who donβt fit in one of these categories or working to even out the ratios. Itβs merely a guide to help you consider how you can create the most fun group for your get-togethers!
LET GO OF PERFECT
One of the main reasons we stress about hospitality is because weβre under the impression that we have to do it all perfectly.
But we donβt have to do anything perfectly because weβre imperfect human beings.
We can welcome people into our messy lives and messy homes without fear of judgment, knowing that their lives and homes are likely just as messy!
We can feel free to host even if our homes arenβt picture-perfect or if weβre not great cooks or if we donβt have all the supplies needed. We can ask for help or simply accept that we donβt have to do it all by ourselves.
Weβre prioritizing connection, not impression here.
Weβre focusing on spending time with our people, not stressing about every last detail trying to make it all perfect.
So go ahead and make those plans! And let me know how they go!